Just a random thought: if you are hiring a lawyer to do something, let him or her do it. If you want to do it yourself, do it yourself. Do not combine the two.
If, for completely hypothetical example, you want a lawyer to handle your real estate closing, things will probably work a lot smoother if you aren't calling the bank, the insurance company, the title company, etc., to check and see if your lawyer called and what the status is. Especially if the lawyer was doing this as a hypothetical favor to your hypothetical spouse for a next-to-nonexistant hypothetical fee. Hypothetically, of course.
Edited to add: After the frustration passes, I revisit the topic with some calmer thoughts. I'll still leave it up, because I think I can do more than have it just be a rant with an additional paragraph. If you do not think your lawyer is doing an adequate job, speak to him/her about it and see what's up. Maybe he/she isn't getting things done and either needs a reminder or you need to find a new lawyer. It happens, even to the most reliable and professional of attorneys. Occasionally something gets lost or buried or he/she just doesn't know the priority you are assigning to the matter.
At other times, just because you want something done now doesn't mean it can be. Yes, you might call the bank and they'll say, "we're ready to close at any time, just let us know when," but that doesn't mean everything is in place and your lawyer is slacking. All hypothetical of course--this could be a criminal, probate or personal injury matter with its own facts. The bank might say "we're ready" on the phone, but yet (hypothetically) the bank has yet to send any documents to your lawyer because the bank is waiting on a statement from the seller's lawyer who is waiting on a statement from the surveyor, who also needs something from the title company. So when the bank says "we're ready to close as soon as your attorney does X and Y," it doesn't mean your attorney can do X and Y on a Wednesday afternoon when he's leaving town the next day for an out-of-town wedding. Hypothetically, of course.